To be completely honest, I probably brush off 95% of advice I’m given. Why? I don't know. I’ll just sum it up to being one of those teenage things that almost all teens are guilty of doing. But when advice is given at just the right time by the right person, it can stay with you forever.
I had just ended my relationship with the "love of my life" via text message, like any mature teenager would. I was making that ugly crying face that Kim K is famous for, thinking that it was the absolute end of the world.
I resorted to the only thing that can possibly help a teenage girl get over a heartbreak in 2016; posting to Facebook that I was single, feeling heartbroken (insert crying face emoji). Sympathetic comments poured in, as expected, but it was a phone call from someone a little unexpected that truly changed my night and all to follow.
It was a friend.
The caller ID read Belen Garcia.
The conversation picked up momentum almost immediately.
We took equal turns listening and venting. Realizing that the title “twins” still stood strong, she had gone through the same thing and assured me that I had made the best decision for myself. With this, she offered me one piece of advice to save me from making some of the same mistakes that she had:
Positivity is key.
As simple or Hallmark-y as it may sound, the more that we talked about it, the more it began to make perfect sense. Finding the good in everyday life can make life easier and manageable. Conforming to society's need to pick everything apart and find the negative in all things is NOT necessary.
I can choose to be better that that; even if it makes my outlook a little different than most. I can embrace that difference and inspire others to be someone that a sibling can look up to, someone that makes their parents proud, or simply someone that is a friend to someone who needs it.
Just moments before, I was in tears over something as stupid as a boy. How quickly things turned around.
I was completely hit with this overwhelming realization that every moment is mine and my reactions were under my control. I can either appreciate my life, or dwell on bad moments and stay stuck in them.
Looking back months later, Belen and I both found happiness in our pursuit of positivity, keeping our twin streak going.
Staying focused on a positive mindset is a choice I continue to make everyday. What will yours be?