I believe everyone should have a creative outlet! I think when people hear the words creative outlet, they immediately think of fine arts. But it doesn’t have to be that. For example, my brother, Dylan, is a fantastic shooter He has great aim. My brother, Parker, does amazing body work on vehicles. I view those activities as creative outlets. As for me, I like to draw and paint.
So, why and how did I start drawing? Well, I started drawing because I needed a healthy coping mechanism. Everyone has stressors in their life, but for me it was too much. So at the age of 12, I picked up a pencil and went on Pinterest. I looked up drawings and copied them. (Side note: do not take others' drawings and claim you came up with that idea out of your head. If you do decide to post those drawings, credit the original artist.) I just kept those drawings to myself, because they were just for practice. They were NOT good, and that’s okay. It was a start.
How did I figure out what I was good at? For the first couple years of drawing, I would draw A LOT of faceless people. Not that they didn’t have a face, they would just be positioned away so that their face wasn’t exposed. My first realism portrait I did was in late 2017. I was barely 13. It wasn’t bad, for being thirteen, but it also wasn’t good. However, at the time I thought it was a masterpiece. I saw something in it, so I exercised my talent with realistic portraits. That is usually what I do now, but occasionally I do different things, too.
Where am I now with my art? Currently I am still doing my realism portraits. I do sell them! However, I do not advertise it often, so I don’t sell much. But I have an art account on Instagram: @emmageorgeofficial. You can view a lot of my art there. I typically make my portraits with colored pencils or graphite. Recently, I’ve been trying to branch out with other mediums and styles. My two most recent drawings were drawings of Ariana Grande, and a photo of a girl on Pinterest. If you’d be interested in a portrait, you could DM my art account.
I hope that you will find a creative outlet that works for you.
That's all for now!
Living our lives, we will deal with many hardships. Unfortunately, grief is inevitable. Many often associate grief, strictly with death, but you can experience grief with breakups (romantic or platonic), moving, etc. I am sure everyone has heard the saying “there are five stages of grief, and that is how you will get through it” many times in your life. Everyone tells us ABOUT the five stages of grief, but no one tells us how to cope with those stages. During each stage of grief, regardless of what it is, it can be a traumatizing and gut-wrenching feeling. So, how do we cope with grief within these stages?
In my opinion, this stage is probably the most peaceful stage. I am going to use death as an example for these stages, but you can apply it to any grieving scenario. During your stage of denial, you’re in shock. You cannot believe that who died, just died. A sinking pit goes into your stomach at the thought of it, but it simply cannot be true. My advice is to prepare yourself. You’re in a state of bliss now, but acknowledge that you know this person is gone. Don’t accept the circumstances; acknowledge them. They are gone but remember, you’ll get through this.
It is proven that anger is linked with anxiety. In this stage, you’re angry with the world, angry at the person that left you, angry at life. How could something so cruel happen to such an innocent person? It is okay to be angry. However, do NOT take that anger out on someone else. Anger is a domino effect. You’re angry, but then you feel that anxiety, you hide it with more anger. Then, the adrenaline starts running. Use that adrenaline for something physical. Go do some interactive activity, go plate throwing, splatter paint on a canvas, or go axe throwing. Just do something real to release this anger/adrenaline/anxiety.
Bargaining comes from guilt. You’re thinking of all of the things you could’ve done or should’ve done. Pinpoint your guilt, and work through that guilt. So many things are out of our control. After you pinpoint your guilt, get a piece of paper. Write down everything that you feel guilty about. Tell the person you’re sorry, tell them you should’ve spent more time with them, etc. get it all out. After you’ve bled all of your vulnerability into this piece of paper, shed a few tears, maybe, then rip it up. You can punch it, tear it, burn it, submerge it in water- whatever it is, discard it. By doing this, you’re making your feelings physically real, you’re getting them out. But after that, you’re sending those guilts away. Now, this is not a guarantee of feeling 100% better after writing this “letter,” but it will help nonetheless. It may hurt to do, and if you cry (which you most likely will) let it happen. Let your body dispose of these emotions in any way it wants, as long as you’re not hurting yourself or someone else.
I know first hand how difficult it is to have depression or go through a depressive episode. I want you to know your feelings are valid. You lost a part of yourself, you lost something that had been a part of your life for so long. Take a deep breath. This person, this job, this relationship, whatever the case, affected the choices you made, and how you spent your time. This stage can be one of the harder stages. Let yourself cry as much as you need. Find someone that you trust deeply, and with their consent, cry to them. Have them hug you, they don’t need to say anything, but you need someone. You cannot isolate yourself from the world, you cannot let yourself ponder in your own prison of a mind. You need people to console you, please do not deal with this on your own. What’s life without contrast, right?
This stage can be freeing, but it can also be heart-wrenching. You’re realizing that all of those times people have told you “you will get through this,” “everything will be okay in the end!” is true to an extent. You’re still not okay with what happened, but you’re accepting it. All that you have been through is wrapping up. You’ve been through the storm and you will still experience some rain showers here and there. The light will always find its way. But how do we cope with this? Say goodbye. Write them a letter, talk to them, do whatever to communicate with them a final time. Everything comes to an end, be proud of yourself for getting through this.
Until next time,